How to Not Beat Yourself Up: A Guide for High-Functioning Perfectionists

We’ve all been there – juggling multiple tasks, aiming for perfection, and feeling the weight of being relied upon. When things don’t go as planned, it’s easy to fall into the trap of self-criticism. But here’s the thing: we need to be kinder to ourselves. 

Let’s talk about how to not beat yourself up and pick yourself up when things go awry.

First and foremost, recognize the hard work you’re putting in. Being high-functioning means you’re constantly pushing boundaries and striving for excellence. Celebrate the small wins and remember that your dedication is already a huge achievement.

Even the best of us make mistakes. It’s part of being human. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, see it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Every mistake is a chance to improve and become even better at what you do.

When you catch yourself spiraling into negative self-talk, stop and reframe your thoughts. Instead of saying, “I messed up,” try thinking, “I’m learning and growing.” Positive self-talk can make a world of difference in how you perceive challenges.

Sometimes, all you need is a breather. Step away from your work, take a walk, meditate, or do something you enjoy. Giving yourself a break can help clear your mind and reduce stress, making it easier to tackle tasks with a fresh perspective.

Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or colleagues. Sharing your feelings and getting a different perspective can be incredibly comforting. Plus, they might offer valuable advice or simply be there to listen.

There are always going to be things outside of our control. Instead of stressing over them, focus on what you can control – your actions, your attitude, and your effort. By concentrating on these aspects, you’ll feel more empowered and less overwhelmed.

While it’s great to aim high, it’s also important to set realistic expectations. Understand that perfection is an illusion, and striving for it can be exhausting. Aim for excellence, but also allow room for imperfections.

As VAs and freelancers, we often take on more than we can handle because we don’t want to let anyone down. But it’s crucial to recognize your limits. Learn to say no when you need to and prioritize your well-being.

Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend. Practice self-compassion by acknowledging your feelings and treating yourself with the same care and understanding you offer to others.

When things don’t go right, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut. But remember, every day is a new opportunity to start fresh. Keep moving forward, stay positive, and trust that you’re capable of achieving great things.

In the end, being relied upon means you’re trusted and valued. Mistakes and setbacks don’t diminish your worth or abilities. Embrace them as part of the journey, and know that you’re doing an amazing job.

So, to all my fellow VAs and freelancers out there – let’s be kinder to ourselves. We’re in this together, and together, we can continue to grow, learn, and succeed.

Keep shining,